Sex with my partner was great – until I stopped feeling anything during penetration
I suddenly became unable to orgasm with a lover I previously had no problem climaxing with. It has been 11 months – what should we do?
My ability to orgasm from penetrative sex seems to come and go. With some partners, I never climaxed; with others, I was able to climax at the beginning of the relationship and then became unable to; and then there are those with whom I had no issues climaxing. Now, I have suddenly become unable to orgasm from penetration with a partner that I previously had no problem climaxing with. I know people chalk it up to being a mental thing, or stress, but the relationship was great, the sex was great and out of nowhere I just became unable to feel anything during penetrative sex. We have been trying to solve this for 11 months.
Is achieving orgasm through penetrative sex really so important to you? Many people see this as an ideal and even (erroneously) consider that there is something wrong with a woman who cannot climax during vaginal intercourse. For most women, though, the main physiological pleasure centre is the clitoris, which is located outside the vagina. So, in order for a woman to have an orgasm during penetration, areas related to the clitoris have to be stimulated; very often, direct clitoral stimulation has to be employed. So, in worrying about the elusiveness of one type of orgasm, you are expecting a great deal of yourself and of your physical sexual response.
Continue reading...Topics
-
KAWS, the Collector, Says, ‘I Don’t Feel Like Anything Is Mine.’
Top stories - The New York Times - November 3 -
'I felt broken until my autism diagnosis at 70'
Top stories - BBC News - November 10 -
‘I’m a mother in turmoil’: My daughter refuses to see me — and she won’t let me see my grandchild. Should I cut her out of our will?
Business - MarketWatch - November 9 -
Why can I only ever enjoy sex with a partner when we’re in the ‘honeymoon stage’?
World - The Guardian - November 13 -
'This is my face and I will embrace what I have'
Top stories - BBC News - November 10 -
My boyfriend finds menstruation unappealing – and I feel rejected every month
World - The Guardian - November 19 -
‘I named my son after him’: readers on the greatness of Quincy Jones
World - The Guardian - November 5 -
If my Netflix recommendations are anything to go by, I am tragically basic | Emma Beddington
World - The Guardian - October 28
More from The Guardian
-
Displaced residents return to southern Lebanon as Israel-Hezbollah ceasefire appears to hold – Middle East crisis live
World - The Guardian - 25 minutes ago -
Trump announces more picks including US trade chief and health deputy
World - The Guardian - 7 hours ago -
British mother of Egyptian political prisoner to press Lammy to take action
World - The Guardian - 4 hours ago -
Seoul slows down under blanket of heaviest November snow in 100 years
World - The Guardian - 3 hours ago -
Bolsonaro allies nearly launched military coup in 2022, police report says
World - The Guardian - 12 hours ago