I escaped Rwanda genocide as a baby. I returned to find my generation has buried its pain | Ornella Mutoni

My Guardian documentary, The Things We Don’t Say, focuses on complex stories of healing in a country where many are putting on a brave face

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I was six months old when I survived the 1994 genocide against the Tutsis in Rwanda with my family and moved to Europe as a refugee. From my earliest memories, I had been told I was a survivor, but with no recollection of 1994 and not being able to live in Rwanda, I always wondered how people managed to coexist with each other after so much violence.

Two years ago, I decided to return, to meet people who had been through journeys of reconciliation. I met survivors who shared harrowing testimonies and the perpetrators who expressed their remorse.

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