I don’t wear makeup but my wedding is coming up – can I go bare-faced?
It’s radical to choose to cry, laugh and hug without regard for running mascara, writes advice columnist Jessica DeFino
Hi Ugly,
I haven’t worn makeup in years but my wedding is coming up in November and I’m facing a lot of pressure to wear it (from friends, my mum and my sisters – not my partner). I want to stand by the idea that my natural face is formal enough. I really want to cry, laugh and hug without worrying about smudging my face. But I worry about being “underdressed” at my own wedding. I’m sure even our celebrant will look more glam than me.
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