I want to ignore beauty culture. But I’ll never get anywhere if I don’t look a certain way

Beauty improves only some qualities of life and demands high investment of time, money and energy, writes advice columnist Jessica DeFino

Hi Ugly,

How do I reconcile not wanting to become a victim to beauty culture rhetoric with the fact that being beautiful tangibly improves quality of life? I’m an undergrad in university and it’s hard not to feel like I’ll never get anywhere professionally or romantically if I don’t look a certain way, given that it seems like all the other girls on campus seem to be able to fulfill all their dreams and also casually look like That.

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