I want to be a stay-at-home mum, and feel angry that society won’t let me | Ask Annalisa Barbieri
Establishing a family and feeling anchored are natural desires, but pinning hopes on a mythical happily-ever-after future will not guarantee self-fulfilment
I’m 30, and have had two abortions in the past three years with two long-term partners, due to not being in a secure financial situation. I feel good about this decision. Even though I’m now with a wonderful man, we haven’t been together very long and haven’t been financially ready.
I’ve spent the past five years building up my business from home, and my boyfriend works and we earn good money, and we should be in a position to buy a small property together early next year. If we can, I would like to start trying to get pregnant.
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