A very nice man is interested in me, but I don’t feel a spark
Why not see what happens when you prioritise someone who offers you stability and decency?
The question Last year I joined a choir where I became friends with a very nice man. Two months ago, my boyfriend and I ended in a rather painful way – I found out he was cheating on me. Now my choir friend has told me he has always had a crush on me. He never acted upon it because I was in a relationship, but now that I’m not, he would like to take me out to see where it will go (his words).
I’m flattered by his attention. He’s good-looking, sweet, interesting and has his life in order. I have no doubt about his sincerity and all-round decency. Yet, I don’t feel the great attraction or spark that I’ve had in previous relationships (and that also have led to some big mistakes).
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