We opened up our marriage, but now I feel abandoned | Ask Philippa

The open relationship you and your wife agreed upon has taken a turn that’s destabilising your sense of connection

The question My wife and I have always had a vibrant sex life, often incorporating fantasies about others into our intimacy. This summer, we decided to open our relationship, using dating apps to meet others for casual encounters, which enhanced our sex life. Her first date was exciting and boosted our connection. I also had a few fun dates and we enjoyed sharing the stories. However, her second date became serious fast.

She is now deeply in love with him and they text or call constantly, even when we went away together to the hotel where we were married. Currently, she’s spending part of our holiday with him, staying at his house, planning to call him daily during our upcoming getaway.

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