My partner and I argue constantly – and she puts all the blame on me | Ask Annalisa Barbieri
It’s very rare that one individual is wholly responsible for the difficulties in a relationship. Perhaps you should go to counselling alone, where you can be heard
• Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a problem sent in by a reader
I am 60 and I’ve been in a long-term relationship with my partner for more than 20 years. We have been extremely unhappy for a number of years.
Our relationship has frequent conflicts over small things. When we disagree on something, I am blamed for my stubbornness or lack of empathy. Innocuous exchanges can turn into confrontations that end frequently with my partner blaming my behaviour. I have been described as moody, insensitive, immature and condescending.
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