My father had plastic surgery. Now he wants me and my mother to get work done

The cosmetics industry has been reeling men into its multibillion-dollar empire in recent years, writes advice columnist Jessica DeFino

Hi Ugly,

My father is falling down a plastic surgery rabbit hole and trying to drag everyone around him down with it. He’s in his late 50s and, in the past year, he got his first cosmetic surgery and made a whole fuss about the results. I personally can’t see any difference whatsoever, but he brags about it constantly to anyone and everyone!

Photos of myself make me shudder in horror. Does that mean I’m hideous?

How do I deal with imperfection?

How should I be styling my pubic hair?

I want to ignore beauty culture. But I’ll never get anywhere if I don’t look a certain way

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