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I have a bit of an embarrassing situation: I’m 24, single, a lesbian, and I’ve never been with anyone! I have had depression for a few years – a combination of family losses and years caring for my terminally ill mother, only going out to work. It’s been a lot, and I’m only just starting to feel better.
People I know either met someone in school and are happily coupled up or they were able to have wild “coming-of-age” experiences at university. Lots of sex, club nights and friends. I’ve got life experience some of those people haven’t had. But I feel as though I missed out on that opportunity to practise dating and sex.
It seems that to meet someone nowadays it’s through work, apps or on a night out. I work in a male-dominated industry. There are no gay bars within 70 miles of me, but I’d go if I had lesbian friend to go with. I’ve tried apps. They tend to be geared to hook-ups, straight couples looking for threesomes or older folks looking for “the one”.
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