Feeling like an impostor is holding me back at work | Ask Philippa

That voice in your head telling you that you’re saying the wrong things, or not saying enough, is not telling the truth

The dilemma How can I feel less intimidated when talking to senior or pivotal people who might be good for my career? And feel less shame in the aftermath? I come from a working-class, immigrant background. I have risen through the ranks in my team and now have a lead role where I go to lots of meetings. I frequently suffer with impostor syndrome. I have seen people reach the top of their game just by being good at meetings, while I feel like I lack this skill, and now this job is more challenging.

I long to stay in my comfort zone in which I have lots of quiet time to do work rather than attend meetings. Though if I was to do that, I’d be taking a step down in my career. After talking to people I admire, I end up not sleeping and rerunning the conversation, annoyed at myself for my performance.

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