After my wife died, I joined a community choir. It gave me respite from my private grief | David Sornig

When Toni fell ill I stopped playing music entirely. Yet every so often I felt the urge to return
The first person who spoke to me on the first day of choir was a woman who’d sat beside me in the crowded alto section. She leaned my way and said a little bashfully, “I’ve never done this before. I don’t know how to sing.”
I wanted to make the same confession to her, but in that moment I figured it’d be better to project something more like reassurance. “We’ll be fine,” I said from a place of certainty that I wasn’t entirely certain about.
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